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Tuesday, 5 January 2010
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| It's over... Dave 02:30:44 |
| | After 17 years she tells me she has a another house and is moving out. This
was the friday before yesterday. I got served by her attorney last tuesday.
Wow. I never even saw this coming. I'll admit we had a somewhat cold
marriage. I was commited to stick it out, especially for the kids.
Well, at first I was shocked. I could not eat and I was nauseas. I really
didn't think I was a bad husband. We never fought. We did disagree on
some things but I usually gave her her way. She was a free spirit. Always
had to be on the go. I was more of a home body who was content to take care
of the kids.
Unfortunately, because she has half custody (mutually worked out) I'm
getting lonely. Is it ok for me to meet more people and be more social as I
used to be? I would actually like to call some people. Some are female.
Is this a bad idea? I'm not really looking for a hot relationship, just
some friends.
Dave
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Monday, 7 December 2009
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| My Wife is LaZy w/Bunch of Credit Bills HELP! Guest 21:54:14 |
| | I can't stand it, my wife is Lazy, and she doesn't clean, she doesn't
cook, she doesn't do laundry (for 3 months now). She chose to be a
housewife but this is what I get. everytime I come in she is on the
couch watching TV, or taking a nap. there is no room on the kitchen's
counter for a cup, I can't find any clean underwear, and my job keeps
me busy 7 days a week. I recently stopped smoking, she refused to stop
smoking.
We have one daughter together, she is 2, I don't want my daughter to
learn this from her. The major thing I'm worried about to file a
divorce is what if I lose my daughter and she gets custody? Also, her
credit cards are all past due for 6 months now because she doesn't even
check her bills, we have agreed to have separate accounts at the
beginning of the marriage (but not legally agreed), she has her own
credit cards and I have my own. Will I be responsible to pay her bills
If we get a divorce? We have been married for 3 years now.
I'm sick of how this woman changed after marriage, she puts everything
on me, she refuses to apply for jobs, she refuses to do her job as a
wife and mother, I don't want to be with her anymore.
I also have a question: Can I legally kick her out of the house?
I mean can I just lock the door and ask her to go live with her mom's
until the judge decides? Will I be in trouble if I do that?
I'm honestly sick of being taken advantage of by a Lazy, psycho woman
and I feel very worried about my daughter's and my future.
Please Help!
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Friday, 20 June 2008
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| Fake and Anonymous SMS/Text message craze ;-( Guest 12:29:50 |
| | Has anyone seen this site http://www.revengetext.com
it allows you to send an sms message to ANYBODY'S phone (worldwide).
It also allows you to specify who the message is FROM !!!
Imagine that, I can send a message to ANYONE from ANYONE. Hmmmm sounds
like a real good way to get my payback.
Is that for real?
Cuz if this is for real I am gonna have some fun with my Ex and her new
man!!!
Anyone seen it? Any Experiences?
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Wednesday, 28 May 2008
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| Dillinger Franklin Cacciutto 20:38:22 |
| | Most women sue for divorce for the same reason that John Dillinger
robbed banks.
That's where the money is.
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Monday, 12 February 2007
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| ACOA Blame Mr Moto 11:24:26 |
| | After 15 years of marriage the wife has told me she is not happy and
has not been happy for years. We have had numerous discussions over
the years about intimacy and openess and how I was not providing that
for her. She always had theories and suggested Alanon or seeing a
therapist, but I never did.
Last fall she informed (and she said for the last time) that she needed
me to be more for her, and said another man had kissed her, while she
was away on a trip. This never led to anything else, but she made it
clear to me if I did not change that this would be the last time she
would take me back and give another chance.
Then, I did look at therapy but never went, things seemed to get better
and i was trying to be a better listener, not arguing as much and
asking for feedback on my progress. I was always told things were
better, but never much more than that. Then about 3 1/2 months ago she
ran into an old boyfriend and starting talking about him quite a bit to
her family and friends that knew him 20 years ago. This seemed odd to
me, and I said you need to be careful with this.
Next thing I know I am being told she is in love with him. I jump to
attention and think man this is serious and I start going to counseling
and taking all the blame. After a few weekly sessions i see my
childhood past of parental alcoholism/divorce and fostering out have
actually had an affect on me. ACOA totally makes sense to me and I see
not only see how it has affected my marriage, but my wife. I ask we go
to marriage counseling to work on the marriage, but I can see its
already to late. She says I have said I wouldn't change before and why
all of a sudden is this different. She says just want to because you
feel threatened now you want to change and I dont trust you will. Talk
about a kick in the nuts. Now 4 months later, I can't approach her and
even though she says the other man is not issue, and that "I" am, she
is not wanting to stay in this, and wants out or to move on.
When i say "hey I see why I was the way I am and yes it was wrong, but
it doesn't mean I want out" she says oh you will jump on any bandwagon
that helpe explain away and takes blame off of you. So this is where I
stand now and it sucks.
Have others in divorce situations been affected by ACOA behaviors?
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Monday, 14 August 2006
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| US Navy : Men Prove Their Skills, women left far behind. Hardpan 20:02:33 |
| | SAN DIEGO, California (AP) -- Facing an exodus of institutional brain
power as baby-boomer scientists retire, the Navy is turning to a
younger pool of talent for its underwater robotics program.
Friday, August 11, 2006
http://www.cnn.com/2006/TECH/08/11/robot.race.ap/index.html
As part of the effort, college students were recently invited to build
robots that could perform a series of tasks without human control in a
38-foot deep research pool. The culmination, last weekend's
International Autonomous Underwater Vehicle Competition, was a
sink-or-swim contest.
The robots were required to swim through a gate, find and dock with a
flashing light box, locate and tag a cracked pipeline, then home in on
an acoustic beacon and resurface in a designated recovery zone. Top
prize was $7,000 and serious bragging rights.
In the nine-year history of the event, about 14 competitors have been
recruited by the Navy or by private firms as part of the next
generation of engineers who make robots for the military, said Tom
Curtin, program manager of the Office of Naval Research.
"Department of Defense-wide, there are a lot of retirement-eligible
people and they represent a strong talent and expertise base," said Ed
Budzyna of the Navy's Space and Warfare Systems Center San Diego.
"They are trying to offset that by bringing in new talent, and the
Navy is definitely part of that."
The deployment of unmanned aircraft and explosives-clearing robots in
Iraq and Afghanistan has boosted spending in military robotics, said
Daryl Davidson, executive director of the Association for Unmanned
Vehicle Systems International, which organized the competition with
the Office of Naval Research.
Young engineers "could go out and get more lucrative positions doing
something probably far less fun, but right now the most development
and the majority of funding and research that is going into this type
of technology is all being done within the military," Davidson said.
A total of 21 teams competed in this year's event, with the University
of Florida's robot, named the SubjuGator, winning the contest for the
second year straight.
Florida's 12-man team -- contest participants were *overwhelmingly
male* -- was sponsored by defense contractor Lockheed Martin Corp.,
with backing coming from other companies including Microsoft Corp. and
Intel Corp. Other defense companies, like Northrop Grumman Corp.,
sponsored the contest and robot manufacturer Applied Research
Associates Inc. had a stall at the event in the hopes of luring new
talent.
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If women 'had it' they'd be showing it... clearly, they don't.
Hell, despite all the feministization of america, matriarchy still
can't even muster a group of girls not intent on lobotimizing their
skulls with useless female past-times such as beauty, perfumes,
cosmetics and other wasteless crap.
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"The citizen who stands by his legal rights in the face of lawless government misconduct
upholds the law and renders a service not only to himself but the public generally."
--Justice Sanders,(defending the right to forcibly resist false arrest),
writing in dissent,State vs.Valentine,935 P.2d 1294.
WA Supreme Court, 1997.
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| OT for xenos etc. Israel/Palestine Bogart 19:56:27 |
| | Nothing to do with divorce but Xenos and others
were discussing the issue.
I present this video as evidence for my point
that US media leaves a lot out - the bbc
tells us a lot more. This is my observation
from having observed the media in both countries.
I cite the section from 25 minutes to 27 minutes
but the rest is pretty good too.
Please ask your news people to tell you *all* the truth
not just the bits you hear.
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-7828123714384920696&hl=en
Whilst it isn't possible to present news without bias or interpretation
it is possible to say that some things are missed out.
-bogey
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| Re: OT for xenos etc. Israel/Palestine( Nietzsche - fake ) Xenos666.6 12:13:45 |
| | Nearl J Icarus wrote:
live_and@floss.com says...> If the Lebanese government supports the Hexbollah, then they have made >>>themselves allies.>>> If the US government supports Israel, then they have made themselves allies.>>Time to bomb the US?> Sure, if you're foolish enough. Go ahead. Unless you're not sure how the theory > of "allies" work.> About the content of Nietzsches book " Will to Power " where you claimed
it was fake.
Guess what, I found one other web page with the same content.
And do you really thing that a website who's content is philosophy would
put fake writings on their web pages?
Hundred's of people would complain and they would remove those untrue
web pages.
http://www.edmaupin.com/somatic/nietzsche_wtp_bk_i.htm
http://evans-experientialism.freewebspace.com/nietzsche_wtp01.htm
I made my copy paste from the " evans " webpage but the same stuff is on
the other website.
Please complain to them about the " fake " so that they can remove it.
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| wife wants to take daughter to another country after divorce Desi 12:06:51 |
| | I'm considering divorcing my wife, but she says she will take our
daughter with her and move to Pakistan after that. We are both
originally from there but are permanent residents here. Can she do
this? How can I stop her? What options do I have? Can I get full
custody? I live in NJ, so what does NJ law say about this? I've never
been divorced before and don't know anything about this, so any help is
greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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| Her obligation and responsibilities CAguy 11:57:13 |
| | If you remember my story, my wife found a guy on line and is totally
infatuated with him. We have since began the divorce process. There
have been other problems in our marriage on both our sides, but that
just put it over the edge. She is presently living with her mother in
Las Vegas and trying to decide whether to stay there and get a job,
come back to the California town that we (me and our 4 kids) live in,
or go to Florida to see this "wonderful guy who validates me". I work
about 30 miles from home. I have a demanding job and now I have all 4
kids. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids a lot. But they are all
school aged and require a lot. From football practices, to school,
sleepovers, etc. it requires a lot of time. For instance, this week,
one of our kids went to school to pick up his schedule. They would not
give him the schedule because he did not have proof of where he lived
to attend that school. I had to leave work and drive 40 minutes to get
a utility bill and take him to the school. I then walked him around to
show him where his classes would be, and then went back to work.
Anyway, I have told my wife (ex?) that she needs to really consider
moving to our town to be close to the kids. I told her that we BOTH
have a responsibility and obligation to them. We both need to be in
their lives. The youngest is 9 years old. I told her I would help her
find an apartment in town and that she could come over the my house to
spend time with them when I am not there (I'm not ready to sit in the
same room with her yet). She would get a job to support herself and
would be close by in case the kids needed us.
My quesiton....am I wrong to ask for this?
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| How do I know it's time for a divorce? Keshia 10:08:31 |
| | My husband and I have been together for 15 years. 6 months ago he took
a job in another state and he spends about 10 to 15 days a month there.
In the past 6 months he has taken $70, 000 out of our savings account
without telling me. I've had to find out by snooping through back
statements. He's got an email account that he claims he doesn't have (
he left it open on his computer. Signout screen only) and many other
odd things have been happening. He's been trying really hard to get me
and the kids to move to the new state but I don't feel secure enough in
our relationship ( we've had our differences over the years and spent 2
years in marriage counseling) to move to a place where I'll have no
support network. I don't know what to do!
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| O.K. now listen to this..... CAguy 10:02:44 |
| | Today I get home fresh from my session with my new shrink. Feeling
pretty good and all. I mentioned that I would like to see her travel
to Florida and that I would even help pay for the flight. She gives me
a look that would stop a bull from charging. She said that the guy has
asked to to Florida for Christmas. I didn't even have to ask, she may
miss Christmas with the kids here. Well that did it. I blew my top
and put my foot down. We got into a HUGE argument and she ends up
leaving the house and is presently driving to Las Vegas to her mother's
house. I brought home the worksheet that we have for the divorce and I
wanted to get it done before she begins to think stupid thoughts like
"Gee I like my kids....maybe I'll keep one". So now we are all
"batching" it.
THE FUN NEVER STOPS!!!!
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| Women Crave Navy Men Guest 07:56:31 |
| | The most desired men in the world are Navy Sailors. Women will do
almost anything to get a man dressed in a Navy uniform.
One of the first things every woman I meet says is "I cant wait to get
some seamen". I always feel bad and tell them "sorry, I was in the
army". Then I just leave because I know they dont want to be with me.
I should have joined the Navy when I was younger. I made the wrong
choice when I went into service and have a feeling I'll spend my whole
life alone because of that decision.
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| Child Support Enforcement A Fraud Dusty 07:19:17 |
| | http://www.krightsradio.com/06csenforcementafraud.php
Child Support Enforcement A Fraud
By Bruce Eden
After reading the article "NYS Child Support Collections Top $1.5 Billion"
(Feb. 25, 2006), the words that come to mind are "fraud", "scam",
"extortion", "racketeering" and "government oppression".
The state talks a good story about how all the increased child support
enforcement and collections benefits the children. This is pure fantasy. The
monies that the state awards, enforces and collects is directly proportional
to how much it receives from the federal government as incentive
reimbursement funding.
And that amount is in the several hundreds of millions of dollars. The
monies that the state receives for child support enforcement has no strings
attached. The state uses this funding to bolster their state employee and
judicial pension plans. Sounds like a massive conflict of interest and
criminal conspiracy to me. The U.S. Supreme Court held in Tumey v. Ohio,
Ward v. Monroeville and Gibson v. Berryhill that judges cannot sit on cases
where they have a pecuniary interest in them because it would be a
demonstration of actual bias.
Yet, judges, or state employed judicial hearing officers, in the domestic
relations courts, sit on these cases every day. This has created a tyranny
by having the state criminalize a civil matter. As stated in the article, it
says that the district attorneys are getting into the act in prosecuting
people for child support arrearages.
Again, this is a blatant due process and equal protection violation. When
were the payor parents told, at the inception of the child support matter,
that the matter would be converted from a civil case into a criminal case?
When were they read their Miranda rights, such as right to remain silent
about their financial situation, or given their right to trial by jury or
right to appointed, competent effective counsel to defend them properly.
As can be seen by this lack of substantive due process, the entire child
support enforcement mechanism is a fraud and a scam that smacks of
racketeering. If any debt collection agency did this for any other debt,
they be facing massive fines and criminal charges. They would be put out of
business immediately.
New York State claims it is going after so-called "deadbeats" by
criminalizing child support delinquencies and jailing those with large
arrearages. Sounds good. However, if one were to investigate the situation
they would find that most of the state's largest delinquent child support
obligors are unemployed, underemployed, undereducated, disabled, minorities,
or deceased. That's right-deceased! The state needs to keep those numbers on
its books in order to maximize the federal funding it receives.
According to a 7-year longitudinal academic study done by Arizona State
University that became the book, "Divorced Dads-Shattering the Myths", it
was uncovered that less than 5% of all delinquent child support payors are
true "deadbeats"-those with the expensive sports cars and trophy wives half
their age. So, where is the child support "deadbeat" hysteria? There is
none. It is being contrived by the federal and state governments in order to
control families, steal children, and eliminate fathers from families so
that the state can become the "super-parent". It is another tyrannical
government program to extract money from taxpayers to support the government's
own largesse.
The state defrauds the taxpayers by claiming they are doing it "for the
children". The government never does something for its citizens without a
quid pro quo. In the U.S. Supreme Court case DeShaney v. Winnebago County
Board of Social Services, the high Court ruled that the state owes no duty
to protect its citizens. So, the question begs: "Why is the state
discriminating against one-half of the population to enforce child support?"
It is obvious. It is not about the children or getting people off of
welfare. It is about how much money the states can rake in so they can
appropriate more money from the feds to balance their own budgets.
Federal child support enforcement laws were designed solely for TANF
(Temporary Assistance for Needy Families) and for welfare families. It was
never designed for the "never-welfared" middle class. However, child support
bureaucrats and other hangers-on testified before Congress that they needed
to bring the middle-class into the fray in order to receive maximum benefits
from the federal government in order to bolster state budgets.
Interestingly, not one child support payor, or any advocacy group for child
support payors was allowed to testify before Congress and the New York State
legislature (or for any other state for that matter) in devising child
support enforcement legislation. Again, we see a pattern of racketeering
conspiracy and government tyranny at the expense of innocent taxpayers.
There is a large hue and cry across the country to curtail divorces because
it threatens the very fabric of our society. The reason is because one
parent is allowed to divorce the other without any grounds. One parent can
divorce and abuse the legal system to win the divorce, all of the money and
assets of the marriage, and win custody of the children (with all the
attendant financial benefits that come with this). It's all because of child
support. Child support enforcement has created the "divorce state". Not only
does child support increase the amount of divorces because of the financial
windfall to the custody-winning parent, it threatens society. Child support
enforcement laws are in reality a threat to national security.
The time has come for lawmakers to take a second look at the draconian child
support enforcement laws in this country because these laws are not
constitutional. Child support enforcement laws are a threat to national
security. To stop this threat, lawmakers either need to eliminate or
seriously curtail child support enforcement against innocent taxpayers, or
they must tax child support the way alimony is taxed. This would immediately
slow down divorces in this country. This is because the custodial parent,
(in over 80% of all cases it is the mother-further gender discrimination
against males), would think twice about divorcing on grounds that their
marriage is not satisfactory, before having to pay the additional large
income tax burden.
Bruce Eden is the director of DADS (Dads Against Discrimination),
New Jersey and New York chapters,
Fathers Rights Association of New Jersey,
PO Box 4075, Wayne, NJ 07474
(973) 616-9558
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| Separated for 25 days Confused1 06:35:48 |
| | I've been posting at alt.support.marriage for a few months now. It
looks like I'll have to change my location. Here are the basics.
After almost 15 years of marriage (15 years this month) my wife decided
I wasn't who she wanted and fell for a guy online. I found this out
back in February and tried everything I could to work out our marriage.
She moved out July 15th saying she needed space to decide what she
really wanted. Since then we barely talk. Things are civil but she
just doesn't seem to want to talk with me. I guess I have to face the
truth that our marriage is over.
I still love her and just can't seem to bring myself to file for
divorce. I guess in a naive way I'm hoping for a miracle and that she
will come to her senses.
Right now my focus is on my kids who just started back to school. They
actually seem to be doing ok with the whole situation. We still live
close to each other so they spend a week with me then a week with her.
So far we've each seen them on a regular basis.
I seem to do ok and just about get myself worked up to the point of
telling her I'm filing and then I see her and talk with her and it
starts all over again. If there were no kids there would be no reason
to talk and I could begin getting over her but how can I do that when
I'm going to see her two or three times a week?
I just don't know what to do or how to do it. I feel rejected and
betrayed and just can't understand why this is happening.
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| Re: support (Dave) Un Saved 05:04:49 |
| | Who cares what the disability is,you nosey fuckwit.
"The world holds two classes of men--intelligent men without religon,and
religious men with no intelligence. ....Abu'I-Ala-Al-Ma'arri 973-1057
Syrian Poet
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| Re: She finally said the 'D' (Randy) Un Saved 04:55:20 |
| | Why Randy dont you know!!? davey knows everything about marriage, he's
read pamphlets & listens to tapes.
"The world holds two classes of men--intelligent men without religon,and
religious men with no intelligence. ....Abu'I-Ala-Al-Ma'arri 973-1057
Syrian Poet
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