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Monday, 22 February 2010
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| FACELESS CHILD: Another reason to be glad i'm childfree Maria Full of Ice 04:02:23 |
| | These are good parents. They have a good attitude. They are handling this
the right way. If it was my child, I would have had a nervous breakdown.
But when I see children with severe deformities, it makes me glad to be
childfree.
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http://www.firstcoastnews.com/news/local/news-article.aspx?storyid=28372
-- JACKSONVILLE, FL -- When most parents have a baby, they spend months
dreaming about what their bundle of joy will look like. Will she look like
mom? Will he have dad's eyes? But for one local Navy family, the birth of
their daughter didn't give them the answers to those questions. Their
daughter was born without a face.
When Tammy was pregnant, she knew something was wrong. At worst, they
thought maybe their baby had a cleft lip.
So Tammy, and her husband Tom, went to the hospital happy, until the birth.
"The nurse is like, 'We got her stable, we need to rush her upstairs,'"
explains Tom, as he recalls every minute of that day. "And the nurse asked,
'Do you want your wife to see her now?'"
Tom says he thought to himself, "Before she gets the shock I did, let me
take a picture so she's prepared."
Tammy hadn't seen her new baby yet, because she almost bled to death during
delivery. Tammy would be okay, meanwhile, dad went to take pictures of his
new daughter.
But no matter what, these new parents had a wish. "That if there was
something wrong, she wouldn't be alone. We wanted to make sure she felt
loved," said Tom, as he began to cry. "She squeezed my hand."
Little Juliana is missing 30 - 40 percent of the bones in her face.
"She has no upper jaw, no cheek bones, no eye sockets, and she's missing the
corner of her ear," explains Tom.
Her birth defect is called Treacher Collins Syndrome. Doctors say it's the
worst case they've ever seen.
So, how do you get people to see past all the defects, and find her heart?
For mom, it just hurts.
"I just wish people would ask questions. Don't just stare," says Tammy. "I
guess the most hurtful thing came not long ago, a little girl said she was
disgusting."
Juliana has to eat through her stomach, and she has a trach to breathe.
Already, less than two years into her life, she's had 14 surgeries. Doctors
say she could need at least 30 more.
Every time she goes to the hospital, doctors make a mold of her head, and
then reconstruct her skull to figure out the next step.
It's a life-long process that's draining for Tammy and Tom. Even still,
they're thankful and full of love for their sweet child.
"God never gives you more than you can handle. I figure she has a lot to
show everyone... to show the world," says Tom.
If you are interested in helping the Wetmore family, a savings account is
set up for donations at the Vystar Credit Union in Middleburg.
Donations can be made at ANY Vystar Credit Union to Juliana Wetmore at
member number 2102465.
Direct donations can be sent to:
Juliana Wetmore
3018 Hickory Glenn Dr.
Orange Park, FL 32065
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Icebreaker
"Are you kidding? When I turn my hearing-aid up to ten, I can hear a canary
break wind in Lauderdale!"
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Saturday, 12 September 2009
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| Miss Manners: Kids at weddings Guest 09:40:13 |
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DEAR MISS MANNERS - When my daughter got married eight years ago, my
brother, his wife and five children came cross-country to be at the
wedding. My daughter had wanted an evening, formal reception with no
children.
I thought it rude, however, that after my brother's sacrifice of time
and much money to be at her wedding, she would not consider having my
nieces and nephews there. So, my daughter acceded to my wishes and
allowed the children to attend the reception.
This May, one of those children is getting married. My daughter, her
husband and three children were planning to attend the wedding. Then we
found out that no children are invited to the reception - because if
all the children of the guests were invited, it would be chaos and
expensive.
These are the same reasons my daughter didn't want children at her
wedding.
My daughter feels the bride should do the same for her.
She feels that her three children should be allowed to attend the
reception simply to reciprocate the good will my daughter showed her
family.
GENTLE READER - Your daughter had specific reasons for not wanting
children at her wedding reception, and was embarrassed afterward
because some were allowed and others not. So she discounts her cousin's
having the same reasons, and feels that she should risk the same
embarrassment.
Miss Manners does not care for that argument that the bride's childhood
appearance created a debt that must now be paid. If your daughter is
going to plead for an exception, she would be better advised to gush to
the bride about how delightful it was to have children at her wedding
and reminisce about how beautiful and well mannered they were.
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Sunday, 8 February 2009
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| Childfree Pioneers Marije 21:18:56 |
| | Hello group,
I'm trying to compile a list of people who have meant something for the
childfree cause, a list of pioneers if you like. So far I have come up
with the following names:
* Ellen Peck (BON)
* Leslie Lafayette (Childfree Network)
* Jerry Steinberg (No Kidding!)
I'm sure I'm missing a lot, so could you please add more names to my
list, preferably also with a brief description their contribution to
the childfree cause. The more people I've got the better. You can even
nominate yourself if you feel that's appropriate.
The reason why I'm after this information is to include it in my book
on childfreedom, which I have been working on for a couple of years now
(due to circumstances there were longer periods of time that I couldn't
write as much as I wanted to). I'm dedicating at least one chapter to
the history of childfreedom and the people who have played an important
role in that.
Thanks all,
Marije
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Wednesday, 3 October 2007
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| Playing the moo card Khan 23:13:47 |
| | Playing the Moo card in a murder conviction
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http://www.daytondailynews.com/search/content/localnews/daily/1105malldeath.html
Gunnell fought tears before her guilty verdict for murder was read
first. All four women burst into tears and she yelled "I can't believe
this, man!" Deputies restrained her in her chair as she howled "Why?
Why? Why?" Then, she repeated, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry."
Order in the courtroom deteriorated as their family members became
enraged and began yelling.
As the chaos escalated, Judge Doug Rastatter cleared the family members
and the jury from the courtroom.
"We've all got kids. My baby is 1. We did not mean for this to happen.
It was an accident," Gunnell pleaded.
It was several minutes before the women stopped crying and yelling and
he proceeded to read the rest of the verdicts.
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http://www.onnnews.com/Global/story.asp?S=4077035
Four Columbus women have been found guilty in the death of a Springfield
man who was killed when their car hit him at a mall.
Mahogany Patterson, Renada Manns, Toneisha Gunnell and Alicia McAlmont
were found guilty Friday of murder, aggravated robbery, theft and
involuntary manslaughter.
In June, the women stole clothing from Macy's and were speeding away
from the mall when they hit John Deselem as he stepped off the sidewalk.
They face 15 or 25 years to life in prison. The women cried and screamed
as the verdicts were read. Gunnell's attorney says he will appeal the
decision.
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Tuesday, 12 June 2007
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| Preggo Moo gets Shot by Duh; Duh later shoots himself Guest 04:51:18 |
| | Trisha L. Bergemann, 22 years old and four months pregnant, died
Thursday morning at a Milwaukee-area hospital after being shot in the
right temple Wednesday afternoon by her boyfriend, who later took his
own life, authorities said.
Bergemann was shot with a .45-caliber handgun just before 2 p.m. by
James D. Butler Jr., 22, in Butler's bedroom on the second floor of his
mother's house at 1623 Sibley Court, according to police and Butler's
sister, Emily Butler, 21.
Bergemann, who was taken by Flight for Life helicopter to Froedtert
Me-morial Lutheran Hospital in Wauwatosa on Wednesday, was pronounced
brain-dead at 9 a.m. Thursday, according to Sheboygan County Coroner
David Leffin. The unborn child Froedtert doctors said Bergemann had
carried for 16 to 19 weeks was stillborn Wednesday night, Leffin said.
An autopsy for Bergemann is scheduled for Saturday, police said.
Bergemann's family has donated her organs to the Wisconsin Donor
Network.
After the shooting, James Butler, who told his sister the gun had gone
off accidentally, fled the home with his younger brother's 18-year-old
girlfriend, Emily Butler said. James Butler killed himself about 3 p.m.
with a shot to the head from the same handgun when authorities in the
Washington County Village of Jackson attempted to pull over the
18-year-old's 1998 Chevrolet Blazer, which he was riding in.
The 18-year-old Sheboygan woman was driving the SUV, and Sheboygan
County District Attorney Joe DeCecco said she will be charged today for
her involvement in James Butler's escape.
DeCecco said he had been pursuing charges of domestic abuse against
James Butler, who allegedly beat Bergemann on Feb. 21. Emily Butler
reported the incident to police, she said.
An apprehension request was issued for James Butler, but police were
unable to find him before Wednesday's shooting. Lt. Jeff Johnston of
the Sheboygan Police Department said he had considered placing James
Butler on the city's most-wanted list.
Emily Butler said James Butler and Bergemann, who stayed at the house
periodically but had not lived there in several weeks, came to the
house that morning.
The shooting was an accident, Emily Butler insists.
"If it wasn't an accident, he wouldn't have killed himself. He would
have shot at the cops. I don't know ... there's no way," she said
Thursday. "I know my brother, he would never, never try to kill her."
But Sheboygan police Lt. Dave Schafhauser said witnesses told police
the couple was fighting immediately before the shooting, and that the
Butler family has been "uncooperative" with the police investigation.
Police believe the shooting was intentional, but say they may never
know what led up to it.
"Due to the fact that James Butler is deceased, it's not something
we're actively investigating," Schafhauser said Thursday afternoon.
"It's not really an issue we have to prove."
Emily Butler, who said she was with her 2-year-old daughter on the
other side of the house when Bergemann was shot, said she heard
somebody scream, "She's shot," and responded by running upstairs to her
brother's bedroom.
"He hit the gun against the wall and said, 'It's still jammed' or 'It's
jammed. I dropped it' or, I don't know exactly what he said ... I went
over by Trish," Emily Butler said Thursday.
"She was sitting on the couch," she said. "Her head was slumped over,
and she was like slumped down. ... And I just grabbed her head and I
told her to keep on breathing, keep on fighting, not to die.
"I was rubbing her belly and telling her that she had to stay for her
baby, and she couldn't go," Emily Butler said.
Travis Butler, 18 - who lived at the Sibley Court Home with his
brother, Norman Butler, 19, and his mother, Laura Butler, 43 - called
911 from the bedroom while Norman Butler got towels to help Emily
Butler take care of Bergemann, she said. Norman Butler was later taken
into custody several blocks south on Calumet Drive when police spotted
blood on his clothing, police said. He was later released.
"He was freaked out, that's why he left," Emily Butler said of her
brother, Norman. "He couldn't handle it. He had to leave."
Also at the home at the time of the shooting were Emily Butler's
4-year-old son - who was downstairs with Laura Butler - and the
18-year-old woman James Butler fled with, who was in an upstairs
bathroom with Norman Butler, her boyfriend, Emily Butler said.
Lt. Jeff Johnston, the third officer on the scene Wednesday, said
having nine people in the house at the time of the shooting made it
"one of the most chaotic" crime scenes he has been to.
Johnston said officers originally were told the shooting was a suicide
attempt but quickly realized otherwise and at 2:30 p.m. alerted area
law enforcement to look for the Blazer belonging to the 18-year-old
woman.
James Butler killed himself about 40 minutes later when police in
Jackson attempted to stop the vehicle. Butler shot himself in the head
before the 18-year-old driver had brought the car to a stop, police
said.
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Sunday, 3 June 2007
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| Channel 7 Interview Request (Australia) Marije 09:21:25 |
| | This is only for childfree people living in Australia (Sydney or
Melbourne.
I've been contacted by a lady from Channel 7 who's doing a report on
the childfree. This is for a TV-programme called Today Tonight.
Basically she's looking for 2 childfree couples who are willing to tell
their story.
More details can be found here:
http://www.worldchildfree.org/notices/media.htm
Marije
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Tuesday, 22 May 2007
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| www.feelmypain.net Mike 13:53:47 |
| | Looks like "Larry Potter" lost his domain name.
He had continued his frequent updates, including a recent update on the
refusal of Jefferson County authorities to enforce harassment and noise
laws, so I doubt he willingly got rid of the site.
www.feelmypain.net
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Saturday, 2 September 2006
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| OT: Goofy Restaurant Question Auntie Em 01:09:15 |
| | Ok, here goes.
My husband and I eat out a couple of times a week (because we CAN!!!)
Usually the places are pretty "middle of the road" such as Landrys,
Red Lobster, Crackerbarrel, etc. Lately, there has been a rather
shocking trend toward what I call "garden clippings" for salads rather
than the old standby Iceberg Lettuce. Also known as "field greens" or
"mixed greens", I don't like them. I like a salad with a nice crunch.
So anyway.
I really enjoy a salad before a meal. It's one of the highlights so
needless to say I am very disappointed by the trend toward garden
clippings.
It has occurred to me that maybe I just might bring my own lettuce to
the restaurant and just ask the waiter for a salad plate. That way I
can still enjoy eating out and having a salad too! My husband, on the
other hand, told me that if I did this he would probably kill me if he
didn't die from embarassment first.
Now, I have seen people with "special dietary requirements" bring
their own stuff to restaurants before i.e. "fat free" salad dressings,
special drinks, etc., that were not available from the restaurant.
Would it be such a crime to bring my own lettuce? Would it?
So what do you guys think? Do you feel like I am really going nuts
here or do you think it might be ok to do this? Would you be
embarassed if your SO whipped out her own lettuce? Or should I, as my
DH said, simply grin and bear it and just make myself salads when I am
home - even though I really love a salad with my restaurant meal.
Your opinions? Thanks all.
Em
Be careful what you wish for....
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Monday, 14 August 2006
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| OT: Bitsy's Going to the Vet Kari 13:57:42 |
| | Poor Bitsy.
DH and I discovered several days ago that Bitsy
has a wound on his right front leg. We were
assuming that he may have gotten injured by
one of our other cats, as they do have their
occasional kitty tiffs.
Well, Saturday evening, we discovered that it
was terribly inflamed. When DH picked him up
to carry him to his food bowl, Bitsy howled
in pain and bit DH, which we can surely
understand.
I am thinking now that with the behavior of
the wound, it may be a spider bite. I am
guessing that it's a spider bite because
in spite of applying Bactine and Neosporin,
the wound is getting worse instead of better.
It opened up today and started draining. We
are still treating it with Bactine and will
be taking Bitsy to the vet tomorrow. So far,
he doesn't have any other symptoms and is
able to eat and get around okay.
It really made me mad when I tried to call
to see if I could find a vet on call for the
weekend. I was hooked up with an incompetent
waste of flesh that I couldn't hear and
who couldn't seem to understand what I was
saying. It sounded to me like one of those
wonderful overseas call centers from the
outsourcing of America. I think I can see
now why I don't do business with this vet
who obviously believes in outsourcing.
I wound up having to say just NEVERMIND! And
all of the othe vets' offices only have an
answering machine with no info as to who may
be on call.
Anyway, I'll be relieved when we can get Bitsy
to the vet tomorrow and get an answer as well
as treatment for my Big Baby.
Kari
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| Divorce rate Guest 08:17:37 |
| | Does anyone know of any research that reveals whether CF marriages have
lower divorce rates than people with kids?
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| Eccentric Meg Ryan flees Hollywood with adopted Chinese orphan Daisy Blue 06:52:13 |
| | MEG RYAN FLEES HOLLYWOOD
By John Bell
Meg Ryan is escaping the Hollywood rat race to live on a remote
cliff-top estate where she'll raise her year-old daughter, an adopted
Chinese orphan.
The Sleepless in Seattle star has an agreement to pay around $7
million for a 12-room mansion nestled on nearly seven acres above the
Atlantic Ocean off Martha's Vineyard in Massachusetts, according to
insiders. A source close to the 44-year-old actress says Meg wants her
little girl ?— who she named Daisy True ?— to grow up on tranquil
Chappaquiddick Island.
Meg ?— who also has a 14-year-old son from her marriage to Dennis Quaid
?— fell in love with the six-bedroom, four-bath home while visiting
friends.
After adopting Daisy True last January, Meg told Oprah Winfrey: "It
was definitely time to take a break and regroup to see where I was."
An insider added: "Meg believes there's more to life than making
movies.
"She's had some traumatic years, but maybe a move from Hollywood with
her new baby will bring her happiness."
http://www.nationalenquirer.com/celebrity/63648
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| No fly liquids -- except for... Puppet_Sock 06:27:33 |
| | So this AM, the radio is blaring about this plot to use liquid
explosives
to blow up planes. 21 people arrested in the UK, blah blah.
And how now you can't carry on any liquids, such as soap, shampoo,
toothpaste, etc. etc. because the plotters supposedly were going to
smuggle explosives in disguised as such things. As well as iPods,
laptop computers, etc. All banned from carry on. Though the news
story was short on details as to why iPods were banned because
some dipshits wanted to use liquid explosives.
So, I'm all ready for the exceptions to start being listed. Yep! You
all
already know it. Milk, formula, juice, etc., all just fine and dandy as
long as you have a larva with you. As are baby powder, baby oil,
children's cough syrup, etc. etc. Anything larva related is just fine.
Terrorists are just so inconsiderate. The least they could have done
was to include a few sprogs in their plans so that the banned list
might
have some small good part to it. You know, anything baby related
as part of their plans might just have gotten sprogs banned from
planes.
At least as carry on.
Socks
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| Lunatic Talk Radio Breeder Guest 06:03:21 |
| | I was riding in a car late last night with another lunatic breeder (I
call her "Mom"). She was channel surfing AM radio looking for Coast To
Coast. She settled in on some other talk radio program.
This guy called in and told the host he decided to have a 2nd child.
The reason? He heard the host say he wouldn't have been able to get
through his father's death alone. So talk radio call in breeder decided
to have another kid just so they could cry together when he dies.
Even my mom bust out laughing at that one. She said she is glad she had
2 kids so me and my sister could cry together when she dies. I said my
sister lives halfway across the country. My mom said "You don't think
she will come to my funeral?" Then she said "Maybe you won't go to my
funeral" (I am well known for avoiding so-called sacred family
functions like weddings and stuff). I didn't say it but I probably wont
outlive her and even if I did I might be too busy scoping out
laundromats and trying to find a 24 hour one to avoid children late at
night to attend any funeral.
Anyone here ever tempted to have a kid just so someone can cry at your
funeral?
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| OT: Helping New Orleans Seniors Ilene Bilenky 00:19:36 |
| | If anyone is interested in very directly helping seniors who are in real
need in New Orleans, please post here and I can let you know how to do
so. Former poster Gutterboy connected me to a wonderful organization
that is doing very direct work with seniors. Any cash amount is a huge
help. The workers themselves need the lift, too! People feel so
forgotten.
Ilene B
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Sunday, 13 August 2006
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